Coping with anxiety after transplant

Posted November 8th, 2018 by Be The Match and filed in Patient Stories
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Have you worried about the future? Felt anxious waiting for biopsy results? Or had persistent thoughts about graft-versus-host disease (GVHD)? You’re not alone. Sometimes anxiety is helpful. For example, a little bit of worry about infection after transplant can be a reminder to wash your hands. But too much worry about infection can slow your recovery if it limits your normal daily activities.

Symptoms of anxiety can include:

  • Difficulty falling or staying asleep
  • Dizziness
  • Feeling so restless you can’t sit
  • Irritability
  • Muscle tension
  • Nervousness
  • Trouble concentrating
  • Upset stomach


Explore different ways to manage anxiety to find what works best for you

There are several ways to help manage anxiety. Sometimes anti-anxiety medicines can help. There are many other types of interventions, coping mechanisms and resources that can help you as well. For example, you could:

  • Go for a walk.
  • Meditate.
  • Do short breathing or relaxation exercises. Find some on YouTube.
  • Listen to soothing music.
  • Talk to someone you trust, or even a pet, about how you feel.
  • Get support through free Be The Match Counseling Services.

If you’re not sure how to start talking about anxiety, use these conversation starters:

  • “I haven’t been feeling like myself lately. I’m concerned my anxiety is getting out of control.”
  • “What do you recommend so I don’t feel worried all of the time?”

If you’re concerned that a loved one is struggling with anxiety, you could say, “You don’t seem like yourself. How are you feeling?”


One woman’s experience with anxiety after transplant

Jodi, transplant recipient

Jodi had a transplant in 2017 for myelofibrosis. She described coping with uncertainty as one of the hardest parts of recovery. “There’s constant worry and recurring thoughts of what my future will look like and whether the GVHD will ever disappear. It’s like a snowball effect,” said Jodi.

Sometimes certain events triggered higher anxiety levels. For example, she was more worried anytime she needed a bone marrow biopsy. “I was anxious for the whole week,” she said. Other times, her GVHD medicine, prednisone, heightened her anxiety.

Jodi did several things to help ease her mind, including talking with a supportive group of loved ones and practicing yoga. Having a mantra, or phrase to repeat, helped her through some of the toughest parts of recovery. “Whenever my mind starts to wander, the mantra keeps me from drifting into negative thoughts,” she said.


Jodi’s mantra

“I am healing.

My cells are soaring like eagles to normal.

I am getting stronger every day.

I am healing.”


Jodi’s advice is to talk to someone. “Communication is key. If you sit in your worries and let them grow, it’s not going to get better. Be proactive. Talk to a counselor,” she said.

For free, confidential support, contact Be The Match Counseling Services:

Ideas for expressing gratitude to your caregiver

Posted November 8th, 2018 by Be The Match and filed in Patient Stories
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The season of thankfulness may be inspiring you to express your gratitude for your caregiver. Expressing gratitude helps your caregiver feel appreciated, but it also has health benefits for you, too.

Studies show giving thanks may help you cope with life after a blood or marrow transplant (BMT). That’s because it’s closely tied to your mental health, which means you’re more likely to:

  • Cope better with everyday stress
  • Show more resiliency
  • Have a quicker recovery from an illness

Expressing gratitude can help you build stronger relationships and friendships.


Simple, creative ways to give thanks

When it comes to your caregiver, it may feel like saying “thank you” will never be enough. “Often, people think a thank you has to be this grand thing, when in reality it just has to be simple and from the heart,” explained Heather James, who manages communication between recipients and donors after BMT for Be The Match.

Get creative! Writing a thank you note can be very impactful, but it’s not the only way to say “thanks.” Do whatever works best for you and your caregiver. If you’d like to be more creative, “a good place to start is to think about something you both enjoy,” said Hailey Hassel, M.S.W., BMT Social Worker in our Patient Support Center.

Here are some ideas to spark your creativity:

  1. Cook a nice meal
  2. Create a playlist or piece of artwork
  3. Give a gift card to a coffee shop or favorite book store
  4. Contribute to their favorite charity in their honor
  5. Set aside time to do something you both enjoy

“Gratitude can be very helpful as you and your caregiver cope with and navigate life after transplant,” Hailey said. So consider new routines for you and your caregiver to express your thankfulness for each other even after November.

For free information and support to help you thank your caregiver:


Studies cited:

  1. Emmons, R. A., & Stern, R. (2013). Gratitude as a Psychotherapeutic Intervention. Journal of Clinical Psychology,69(8), 846-855. doi:10.1002/jclp.22020
  2. Lambert, N. M., Clark, M. S., Durtschi, J., Fincham, F. D., & Graham, S. M. (2010). Benefits of Expressing Gratitude. Psychological Science,21(4), 574-580. doi:10.1177/0956797610364003

Governor Dayton proclaims Sept. 21 Jason Carter Clinical Trials Program Day

Posted September 24th, 2018 by Be The Match and filed in News, Patient Stories
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To celebrate the legacy of Jason Carter, and his drive to make a difference, Governor Mark Dayton has proclaimed Sept. 21, 2018 as Jason Carter Clinical Trials Program Day.

After living with leukemia for more than four years, and participating in two clinical trials, Jason Carter passed away in May 2016 at the age of 28. Jason loved fishing, skiing the mountains of Montana, perfecting recipes and taking photos of his outdoor adventures.

To continue Jason’s legacy by helping to get more people to participate in clinical trials, the Carter family created the Jason Carter Clinical Trials Program with a generous donation to the Be The Match Foundation®, the fundraising organization that supports Be The Match®.

The program has many free and confidential services for patients and their families, including: One-on-one nurse support with assistance in finding clinical trials; an easy-to-use online clinical trial search tool; and easy-to-understand clinical trial descriptions.

Please join us in celebrating Jason Carter’s life-saving legacy.

My Bone Marrow Donation Journey

Posted September 17th, 2018 by Be The Match and filed in News
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Throughout my entire life, I’ve been able to enjoy the simple things in life. I love traveling, going to family cook outs, spending my days at the beach and singing along to Beyoncé. I always appreciated my family and the values they instilled in me from a young age. One of those values was a commitment to help other people. In 2013, while I was working for a news station, I was fortunate enough to do a story on Be The Match® and it inspired me to join the Be The Math Registry®.  I thought, ‘how much more could I show that I cared for someone, than by donating a part of me in the hopes it would help them live a longer, healthier life?’

Aja-Reigh with her recipient, Justin

A year later, I was called to be a donor for a kid with sickle cell disease. I didn’t know it at the time, but the recipient was 13 year old Justin Nunez. He was 6 months old when he experienced his first sickle cell pain crisis. He had to get used to the fatigue, headaches, dizziness and severe pain of sickle cell disease while trying to be a normal kid. As he grew older, the disease worsened and his only hope for a cure was a blood stem cell transplant (bone marrow transplant). With no matches in his family, the Nunez family turned to Be The Match to begin the search for an unrelated donor, and they found me.

With his ancestry being Guatemalan and Jamaican, Justin had to beat the odds in order to find a match. With only 19% (19 out of 100 people) on the registry identifying as racially and ethnically diverse, I’m so grateful I was able to be his match to cure his disease

Imagine my excitement when I was first called to be Justin’s donor! I immediately called my family, overjoyed at the life-saving opportunity that was presented to me. They shared in my excitement, but worried that my donation was going to hurt. I was committed to donating to this kid in need, and reminded myself that any pain I felt would only be temporary compared to what he was feeling living with sickle cell disease.

In the weeks leading to my donation, I attended appointments and information sessions to learn all about the donation process and why it is so necessary to get more ethnically diverse people on the registry. I was excited and confident in my decision. Anytime they asked if I was okay, and ready to process, my answer was always, ‘Yes, let’s do this. I’m ready!’

I donated my blood stem cells to Justin in July 2014. He’s back in school, enjoying his teenage years and his life no longer revolves around sickle cell disease.

I am incredibly grateful for the opportunity to save someone’s life. Sickle cell disease affects 1 out of every 365 African-Americans, and we only have a 23% chance of finding a match on the registry so it’s important for more people to join the registry to provide these life-saving cures. Looking back, my advice for potential donors is: Don’t let other people discourage you. Think about the recipient. If you have something that could potentially save a life, why not donate it?

Celebrate World Marrow Donor Day, Sept. 15!

Posted September 10th, 2018 by Be The Match and filed in News
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Thank you to all the blood stem cell donors and registry members who are saving lives around the world!

Did you know saving lives through blood stem cell donor is a truly international mission?  Nearly 50% of all blood stem cell transplants use international donations!

Be The Match is one of 100 organizations from 57 countries that celebrate World Marrow Donor Day to thank everyone who has donated blood stem cell donors, via marrow or PBSC, as well as registry members who are standing ready to donate to any patient in need. It is also a day to raise awareness of the need for more people to sign up—especially young, ethnically diverse donors who help increase genetic diversity on the registry.

Patients and their families are tremendously grateful to every one of the more than 32 million people across the globe who are offering hope of a cure.

Help celebrate the 1.2 million transplantations worldwide by inviting friends and family to join the registry to save a life.

  • Share Mike and Adriana’s heart-warming story featuring a donor and recipient meeting for the first time.
  • Encourage friends and family to join our life-saving community by sharing
  • Thank donors and registry members on social media by saving and sharing the Thank You graphic. Tag @BeTheMatch in your post and use hashtags #ThankYouDonor, #WMDD2018 and #BeTheMatch


Understanding CAR T Cell Therapy

Posted September 5th, 2018 by Be The Match and filed in News
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CAR T cells are a new way to treat some cancers using gene therapy. This treatment helps your own immune system find and destroy cancer cells. The treatments using CAR T cells are primarily for people who have had other standard treatments, like chemo or transplant, in which the treatments haven’t worked and the disease has relapsed or is refractory.

In our new, easy-to-understand video, Linda J. Burns, M.D., Vice President, Health Services Research, and Scott Kerwin, R.N., M.N., C.C.R.C., C.C.R.N., Clinical Trial Patient Education Specialist, explain:

  • What CAR T cell therapy is and how it works
  • How CAR T therapies are made
  • Who it may help
  • What the treatment is like
  • Potential risks and benefits
  • Questions for patients to ask their doctor
  • Costs of the therapy
  • Centers that offer CAR T therapy

Watch this video to learn what CAR T cell therapy is, who it may be for, and the risk and benefits of the treatment.

Getting active after transplant: Tips for a gradual return to healthy exercise habits

Posted September 5th, 2018 by Be The Match and filed in News
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You may feel ready to get back to some of the healthy habits you had before transplant, or start some new ones. Just like before your treatment, being physically active is one of the keys to feeling better and staying healthy.

Find a routine that keeps you motivated

Regular physical activity can help you feel better. Many transplant recipients say they have less pain, more energy and sleep better when they make physical activity part of their day.

“My recovery went a lot better due to exercise. Start as soon as you can and do whatever you can because there’s going to be a tremendous long-term benefit from it,” says David, a transplant recipient.

Talk to your doctor first.

When you feel ready to start exercising again, talk to your doctor first and follow their recommendations. It’s best to start slow and gradually increase your activity level. For example, start with a small goal like walking down the street and back. Then, increase your distance as you feel able. Continue to increase your distance until you are able to walk at least 30 minutes a day.

“Once I started walking, I just felt better—physically, emotionally and mentally. It made a huge difference,” says Kay, a transplant recipient.

If walking isn’t enjoyable for you, try another aerobic activity, like riding a stationary bike, climbing stairs or dancing. Again, start with a small goal and add new goals as you are able. Once you’ve built up your strength, try to do aerobic activity for at least 30 minutes a day.

Don’t forget to do strength training and stretching, too. Start slowly. Even lifting soup cans at first can help increase your bone density and muscle strength and lower fatigue (tiredness). Gentle stretching and activities like yoga can help you increase your flexibility, and are good for your joints.

As you get stronger, you can slowly increase the intensity of your aerobic activity and strength training.

Is complementary or alternative medicine right for you?

During your treatment and recovery, you may have heard about complementary or alternative medicine (sometimes called CAM) and wondered if it is right for you as part of routine health lifestyle. The answer? It depends.

CAM practices that are generally safe include those that promote relaxation, well-being and movement such as:

  • Meditation and prayer
  • Guided imagery
  • Massage
  • Art and music therapy
  • Yoga
  • Tai chi
  • Reiki

No matter which CAM practices you are considering, do your research and talk with your doctor before you start.

Not sure where to begin?

If you’d like some help getting started on an exercise routine, ask your doctor for a referral to physical therapy. Physical therapists can help you make an exercise program that’s safe for you and meets your needs. Check with your health insurance company because physical therapy costs might be covered by your policy.

No matter how you get started, find a routine that you enjoy and one that keeps you motivated.

Celebrate progress

During early recovery, your focus is likely on what is right in front of you, like getting to appointments, taking medicines, eating and resting. You may have had to go back to the hospital. You may feel discouraged.

Progress can sometimes be hard to see during recovery. Reflect on some of the milestones as you regain energy and strength for physical activity. Ask yourself, “What is one thing I did today that I could not do a month ago?”

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Support for siblings after your child’s blood or marrow transplant

Posted September 5th, 2018 by Be The Match and filed in News
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Transplant and recovery is an emotional and challenging time for families. Each family member will cope differently as your child recovers. Your child’s siblings may experience stress in different ways, too. Here are some of the signs of stress to watch for in your other children and ways to help them cope in healthy ways:

 Signs of stress for children may include:

  • Changes in eating habits
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Drop in school performance
  • Headaches
  • Worry
  • Irritable

If you notice these signs in your child, talk to your child’s health care team. They can share resources to help you and your family.

Some things you can do to help your children cope with a sibling’s transplant and recovery include:

1. Keep a routine

Children find comfort in routines. Whenever possible, help your children continue their normal activities.

  • Prioritize family time. Make time to check-in as a family each day.
  • Keep a few family activities, such as breakfast or dinner, at the same time every day
  • Go over your family’s calendar together every few days or so, and be sure everyone knows what to expect and when.
  • Arrange for your children to participate in school activities and spend time with friends on a routine basis. For example, if your focus needs to be on your child’s transplant recovery, ask other family members and friends for help so your other children can continue their scheduled activities.

Tools like and can help you organize help from family and friends.

2. Help your children express their feelings

It’s normal for children to have many different feelings when their brother or sister is sick and recovering from transplant. Sometimes they may feel isolated and find it hard to talk about their feelings. It’s common for siblings of children undergoing transplant to feel:

  • Lonely
  • Sad
  • Anxious
  • Jealous
  • Guilty
  • Afraid

You can help your children identify and express their feelings, and manage their emotions in a healthy way. Depending upon their age and developmental stage, here are some ways you can help your children identify their feelings and talk about them:

  • Use dolls or action figures to have your children act out their feelings.
  • Listen and provide reassurance.
  • Have your children draw pictures of how they feel. Then, ask them to talk about what they drew.
  • Ask your children to finish sentences, like “I am worried about ___________.” or “You can help me feel better by ___________.”
  • Encourage your children to ask questions. Give as much information as they are able to understand.
  • Give your children a journal to write down their thoughts and experiences.
  • It’s okay to say, “This is new for me too,” and that you’ll work together to figure it out.
  • Talk openly and honestly about difficult topics.

Not all of the feelings your children will have will be negative. The transplant experience can lead to positive experiences for siblings, too.  Your children might become more sensitive to others’ feelings or have more coping skills

3. Show your children your support for them

You can support siblings by showing and telling them they are loved and you are there for them, too. Some ways to do this include:

  • Take time each day to talk about their day, activities and friends.
  • Celebrate their accomplishments.
  • Ask a family member or friend to spend quality time with your children when you can’t.
  • Encourage family and friends to include all of your children in their visits and well-wishes.
  • Tell each child the special things you love about them.

Your transplant center’s social worker or child-life specialist can also provide ideas and support.

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Follow up to “Why are there age limits for registry members?”

Posted August 23rd, 2018 by Be The Match and filed in Donor Stories
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Dr. Dennis ConferFrom Dr. Dennis Confer, Chief Medical Officer, National Marrow Donor Program

Our blog post in 2011 about age limits for Be The Match Registry prompted a lot of responses from registry members. Many of them were unhappy, in some instances, really unhappy, about the upper age limit. Be The Match Registry only accepts donors between the ages of 18 and 60. Registry members are automatically moved to inactive status on their 61st birthday. We’re happy that the post generated so much thoughtful and vigorous discussion. It shows the passion and commitment of donors toward helping patients. I will try to address some of the issues.

Transplant doctors prefer younger donors for their patients

In our previous post, we stated that one reason for the upper age limit is to provide the best treatment for patients. Doctors weigh many factors when selecting a donor for one of their patients; the age of the potential donors is one of them. Transplant doctors want younger donors. This preference is also data-driven; there are publications suggesting that patients with younger donors do better. See for example, Need to add Kollman BLOOD, 14 JANUARY 2016 x VOLUME 127, NUMBER 2.
Some of it is judgment. It is very clear that the bone marrow ages just like other organs; the cellularity of bone marrow declines with age. You can’t get as many cells out of an older donor as you can from a younger one, and higher cell dose improves the chances of success.

Additionally, there are little parts of each cell’s chromosomes, called telomeres, whose length reflects the residual ability of the cell to divide. Guess what? — the telomeres of bone marrow cells get shorter with aging. If you do bone marrow transplants serially in mice, the bone marrow poops out when the telomeres are gone. Can bone marrow from a 65-year-old donor last another 45 years or more in a 20-year-old recipient? We don’t know, but a lot of doctors are reluctant to do the experiment. Most would like to put young bone marrow in young patients, and older patients, too, for that matter. Finally, it is also true that diseases of the bone marrow, like myeloproliferative syndrome, myelosdysplastic disease and acute leukemia, are diseases of aging; their frequency begins to increase around age 45 and continues relentlessly throughout older age.

World Marrow Donor Association standards

The NMDP is one of 67 donor registries around the world that participate in the World Marrow Donor Association (WMDA,, an organization that facilitates international donation and transplantation, and promotes the interests of donors. WMDA standards require donor registries to stipulate an upper age limit not to exceed 60 years. In fact, many other donor registries have set lower age limits for joining: age 55 in Germany, 50 in Canada, 40 in Australia and in the United Kingdom, 54 in Japan. Most of these registries consider members already on the file eligible to donate up to age 60. Maybe the NMDP could work around this standard if there was a compelling reason to do so, but the simple fact is — no registry in the world keeps donors past the age of 60.

Age is a factor in a person’s health

We know there are many people over age 60 who are in excellent health. There are also many who are not. I talked about aging bone marrow above, but other health problems also increase with age. The rate at which potential donors are found medically unable to donate is highest in NMDP’s older donors. This higher rate of medical deferral matters because it presents a risk to patients. When the selected donor turns out to be unable to donate, transplant may be delayed, which can jeopardize a patient’s likelihood of success. Medical deferral often happens late in the process, when the donor is being “worked-up” for donation, and it is a huge disappointment for everyone. This is another reason that doctors like younger donors.

Hitting the age limit

I myself turned 61 in March, 2011. I’m no longer on the registry and I am righteously indignant about it. I started exercising 3 years before and I had lost 20 pounds. I am in the best condition of my adult life. That nobody wanted me during the 20 years I was on the registry only further irritates me. But in reality, I would not be a good donor. There are more than 200 people with my HLA type on the registry and they are all younger than I am. So, there are other ways (in addition to doing my job) that I will be making a difference — and other ways you can, too. Contributing money or hosting a donor recruitment drive may not offer the same joy and satisfaction that the opportunity to donate marrow would, but these acts are crucial to saving more lives. I am also encouraging my sons to join the registry. They are young men and can be members for a very long time. And it’s about time they did something that makes sense!


Last updated: August 23, 2018

Spotlight on long-time Be The Match Volunteers

Posted August 9th, 2018 by Be The Match and filed in Volunteer Stories
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When Karen Lorentz’s three year old son Bob needed a live-saving bone marrow transplant, she became involved with Be The Match.  21 years later, Bob is cancer free and Karen and her community have found a way to give back to help support other families in need of similar live-saving treatments.

She and her neighbors have rallied behind Be The Match and its mission by becoming volunteer couriers.  Karen, her husband, and their friends John and LeAnn Savereide are all now volunteer couriers for Be The Match.  In 2017, Be The Match volunteers contributed over 164,000 hours dedicated to all aspects of our mission, saving nearly 6,100 lives including our 337 volunteer couriers that completed 2,268 product deliveries.

Be The Match offers many different volunteer opportunities, allowing those individuals to have a direct impact on patients with blood cancers and diseases. John’s advice is to “apply and hope you are selected. It has to be one of the most interesting and rewarding volunteer opportunities that exists.” John also says that the most rewarding aspect of volunteering with Be The Match is thinking about the patients receiving the product, and what it means for them and their families.

According to Karen’s neighbor LeAnn, who is also a volunteer courier, “The most rewarding aspect of this job is thinking about the people waiting for the product and what it means for them. Having loved ones who have received an unrelated match I know how important it is.” By confidentially delivering these life-saving stem cell treatments to patients in need, the volunteers feel a sense of responsibility, hope, and satisfaction.

When asked why she has continued her work as a volunteer with Be The Match, Karen says, “Well, quite simply, I am addicted to saving lives. I have had many volunteer jobs over the years and this one I find to be the most rewarding. Someone 21 years ago volunteered to save my little boy’s life and a courier delivered the lifesaving cells to us. It gives me great satisfaction to think I am now a courier and able to do this for a patient, and giving back something that was given to me.” Watch their video to hear more of their story and what it means to be a volunteer courier

Be The Match volunteers are needed across the nation and there is something for everyone.  Whether you want to help out at fundraisers, support our mission or work directly with patients and donors, you can help deliver hope for patients and families dealing with blood cancers and diseases.  If you are interested in learning more, visit